Ask a Gay Guy!

FroZen wrote:Now...another question.

I have been hit on a few times by gay guys over the years. Does that mean I don't exactly come off as straight or is it that the guys in question don't really care that I'm straight and the challenge makes it more appealing? Do you see straight guys (that are obviously straight) and figure what the hell it's worth a shot?

Take the compliment! Gay guys have impeccable taste.

Joshua wrote:

FroZen wrote:Now...another question.

I have been hit on a few times by gay guys over the years. Does that mean I don't exactly come off as straight or is it that the guys in question don't really care that I'm straight and the challenge makes it more appealing? Do you see straight guys (that are obviously straight) and figure what the hell it's worth a shot?

Take the compliment! Gay guys have impeccable taste.

Well that's how I took it. And then I quit wearing hot pants....

FroZen wrote:Well that's how I took it. And then I quit wearing hot pants....

Psst! It works better if you wear fishnets under them!

Joshua wrote:

FroZen wrote:Now...another question.

I have been hit on a few times by gay guys over the years. Does that mean I don't exactly come off as straight or is it that the guys in question don't really care that I'm straight and the challenge makes it more appealing? Do you see straight guys (that are obviously straight) and figure what the hell it's worth a shot?

Take the compliment! Gay guys have impeccable taste.

Some gay guys like the challenge. Some guys are turned on by the idea of doing it with a guy with a wife and kids at home. Different reasons for different people.

I admit in my younger days, it was kind of exciting (and DANGEROUS, at times. Let me stress that) to flirt with my straight friends and see how far they'd actually let things go. But, then, the question afterwards becomes how straight were they to begin with if it went that far?

Like Josh says, take the compliment. Most gay guys will take no for an answer, and even the ones that won't probably aren't going to be that insistent that something happens.

Whether or not you come off gay is relative.

superdoug wrote:

Joshua wrote:

FroZen wrote:Now...another question.

I have been hit on a few times by gay guys over the years. Does that mean I don't exactly come off as straight or is it that the guys in question don't really care that I'm straight and the challenge makes it more appealing? Do you see straight guys (that are obviously straight) and figure what the hell it's worth a shot?

Take the compliment! Gay guys have impeccable taste.

Some gay guys like the challenge. Some guys are turned on by the idea of doing it with a guy with a wife and kids at home. Different reasons for different people.

I admit in my younger days, it was kind of exciting (and DANGEROUS, at times. Let me stress that) to flirt with my straight friends and see how far they'd actually let things go. But, then, the question afterwards becomes how straight were they to begin with if it went that far?

Like Josh says, take the compliment. Most gay guys will take no for an answer, and even the ones that won't probably aren't going to be that insistent that something happens.

Whether or not you come off gay is relative.

Wow...just...wow..

FroZen wrote:
Wow...just...wow..

I can't tell if you're satisfied with the answer. I can try and elaborate, if you like.

oh...yeah..plenty good.

superdoug wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:I appreciate you timely and well written response. I only ask because I was wondering why the strange lingering stares!

Oh, well, if it's personal assessment you're wanting, please include a picture of yourself in briefs so I can confirm or deny whether this is the case. You may just be bad at the shaking-off portion of restroom use.

I did just get out of a cold shower!

Lantern Lite wrote:

superdoug wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:I appreciate you timely and well written response. I only ask because I was wondering why the strange lingering stares!

Oh, well, if it's personal assessment you're wanting, please include a picture of yourself in briefs so I can confirm or deny whether this is the case. You may just be bad at the shaking-off portion of restroom use.

I did just get out of a cold shower!

I saw the picture real quick and at first I thought i was watching you take a dump until I saw the hands and feet facing the "wrong" direction.

Not to mention the wrong color!

<Tom Arnold voice>
"Jesus, boy! Whadidjoo' eat!?!?"

Lantern Lite wrote:

superdoug wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:I appreciate you timely and well written response. I only ask because I was wondering why the strange lingering stares!

Oh, well, if it's personal assessment you're wanting, please include a picture of yourself in briefs so I can confirm or deny whether this is the case. You may just be bad at the shaking-off portion of restroom use.

I did just get out of a cold shower!

Lantern Lite wrote:I did just get out of a cold shower!

Doug, glad you gave this a shot! Seems to be experiencing some awesome success!

Silent K wrote:

superdoug wrote:
Personally, I think every man should taste his own at least once, so he knows what he's subjecting his partners to.

Makes sense, but knowing me, I'll end up dipping McNuggets in it.

Aaaaaand I've shat myself.

Lee wrote:

superdoug wrote:
Okay, that was flip, but it's kind of true. Used to, before metrosexuality and bromances, it was easy to tell when a guy was into other guys, or was at least amenable to the idea of monkeying around. Nowadays, who can tell?

<<< Thinks he may be part of the problem.

Thinks? Sister, I KNOW I am.

Joshua wrote:My love of musicals, flamboyant tendencies, and my possibly-too-comfortable demeanor around guys have caused a couple of people to question where I prefer to lay pipe, but I don't get it because I am a horrible dresser. I once wore brown plaid shorts with a bright green Polynesian shirt. It was a disaster.

Ah, but see, you know it was a disaster. So your taste isn't bad, you're just willing to wear things you KNOW aren't tasteful to maintain the ruse. Accept it Josh. It's easier that way.

superdoug wrote:

Topcat wrote:I've got a question, tho', Doug: When hooking up with someone new for the first time, is it akward deciding who will do the 'parking,' or is it just kind of intuitive who prefers what?

(I mean with guys & girls it's pretty clear what's going to end up where at some point in the game, but I've always been curious about, well... yeah. )

Um...it can be awkward, unless you're hooking up through a meet-and-greet site where you've laid that stuff out for people to see. But there are subtle hints that you can pick up on that make it a little easier.

1. 'Parkers' tend to keep their fingernails painfully short. I would go into why, but it should be apparent without visuals.

2. 'Parking Spaces' tend to be a little more submissive. Occasionally, you'll encounter an agressive space, but even then, they tend to be flirty and coquettish. Not necessarily in a feminine way.

3. This is just my own rule, but I've always noticed that in gay porn, whoever hits their knees first usually is the parking space. The same tends to hold true for real life.

4. Ask. At the worst, all you do is fuck up your chances of getting laid that night, and that's what porn and tissues are there for!

You're my hero.

Metal Misfit wrote:*never knew Doug was gay*

Didn't you see the flag?

Lantern Lite wrote:

superdoug wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:I appreciate you timely and well written response. I only ask because I was wondering why the strange lingering stares!

Oh, well, if it's personal assessment you're wanting, please include a picture of yourself in briefs so I can confirm or deny whether this is the case. You may just be bad at the shaking-off portion of restroom use.

I did just get out of a cold shower!

Aaaaaaaand now I'm never going back in to work...

Astro13Zombie wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:

superdoug wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:I appreciate you timely and well written response. I only ask because I was wondering why the strange lingering stares!

Oh, well, if it's personal assessment you're wanting, please include a picture of yourself in briefs so I can confirm or deny whether this is the case. You may just be bad at the shaking-off portion of restroom use.

I did just get out of a cold shower!

I just threw up in my mouth a little.

That picture deserves a prize or something.

Silent K wrote:That picture deserves a prize or something.

Oh no, Silent K, don't say that.

Ska wrote:

Silent K wrote:That picture deserves a prize or something.

Oh no, Silent K, don't say that.

But it makes me laugh like an 11 year old boy everytime I look at it!

Mnemosis wrote:While at college, I once had a gay guy tell me that gays are notoriously close minded towards other minorities/religions/alternate life styles. Do you find this to be true? I would think if anything, being on the "outside" would cause people to be MORE accepting, but that wasn't the case according to this guy

Years ago, a black guy was hitting on me, and did it in the most round about way. He asked me if I would be interested in dating his 'friend'. When I said maybe, he then asked if it mattered if his friend was black. My response: "Frank, I'm gay. I can't afford to be prejudiced, too."

As more and more people come out of the closet and homosexuality loses its taboo, the gay community has become somewhat more accepting of the diverse members of its community. However, once upon a time it wasn't like that. Transsexuals weren't included in the community, as they were 'freaks' of a sort. Black gays had their bars, white gays had theirs, lesbians had theirs, and ne'er the three did meet. But, as our sense of community grows, so do our horizons, and prejudices that were strong twenty years ago aren't as prevalent. To be fair, though, it's been at least six years since I was in the bar scene, so I may be talking through my hat.

Gays, in my experience, still tend to be highly judgmental in regards to closeted gays, gays that identify as 'straight-acting' (a personal pet peeve of mine), conservatives, and Christians. Although, two out of four of those groups give them good cause.

"Talk out of my hat".

HA! That is very funny.

Mnemosis wrote:Doug, glad you gave this a shot! Seems to be experiencing some awesome success!

Silent K wrote:

superdoug wrote:
Personally, I think every man should taste his own at least once, so he knows what he's subjecting his partners to.

Makes sense, but knowing me, I'll end up dipping McNuggets in it.

Aaaaaand I've shat myself.

Lee wrote:

superdoug wrote:
Okay, that was flip, but it's kind of true. Used to, before metrosexuality and bromances, it was easy to tell when a guy was into other guys, or was at least amenable to the idea of monkeying around. Nowadays, who can tell?

<<< Thinks he may be part of the problem.

Thinks? Sister, I KNOW I am.

Joshua wrote:My love of musicals, flamboyant tendencies, and my possibly-too-comfortable demeanor around guys have caused a couple of people to question where I prefer to lay pipe, but I don't get it because I am a horrible dresser. I once wore brown plaid shorts with a bright green Polynesian shirt. It was a disaster.

Ah, but see, you know it was a disaster. So your taste isn't bad, you're just willing to wear things you KNOW aren't tasteful to maintain the ruse. Accept it Josh. It's easier that way.

superdoug wrote:

Topcat wrote:I've got a question, tho', Doug: When hooking up with someone new for the first time, is it akward deciding who will do the 'parking,' or is it just kind of intuitive who prefers what?

(I mean with guys & girls it's pretty clear what's going to end up where at some point in the game, but I've always been curious about, well... yeah. )

Um...it can be awkward, unless you're hooking up through a meet-and-greet site where you've laid that stuff out for people to see. But there are subtle hints that you can pick up on that make it a little easier.

1. 'Parkers' tend to keep their fingernails painfully short. I would go into why, but it should be apparent without visuals.

2. 'Parking Spaces' tend to be a little more submissive. Occasionally, you'll encounter an agressive space, but even then, they tend to be flirty and coquettish. Not necessarily in a feminine way.

3. This is just my own rule, but I've always noticed that in gay porn, whoever hits their knees first usually is the parking space. The same tends to hold true for real life.

4. Ask. At the worst, all you do is fuck up your chances of getting laid that night, and that's what porn and tissues are there for!

You're my hero.

Metal Misfit wrote:*never knew Doug was gay*

Didn't you see the flag?

Lantern Lite wrote:

superdoug wrote:

Lantern Lite wrote:I appreciate you timely and well written response. I only ask because I was wondering why the strange lingering stares!

Oh, well, if it's personal assessment you're wanting, please include a picture of yourself in briefs so I can confirm or deny whether this is the case. You may just be bad at the shaking-off portion of restroom use.

I did just get out of a cold shower!

Aaaaaaaand now I'm never going back in to work...

you have to go back to work, I made lunch for everyone!

Oh my stars and garters....

It's true. I watched him do it.
Magic Mayonaise for everyone.

Thank GOD I eat my sausage with mustard!

superdoug wrote:Years ago, a black guy was hitting on me, and did it in the most round about way. He asked me if I would be interested in dating his 'friend'. When I said maybe, he then asked if it mattered if his friend was black. My response: "Frank, I'm gay. I can't afford to be prejudiced, too."

As more and more people come out of the closet and homosexuality loses its taboo, the gay community has become somewhat more accepting of the diverse members of its community. However, once upon a time it wasn't like that. Transsexuals weren't included in the community, as they were 'freaks' of a sort. Black gays had their bars, white gays had theirs, lesbians had theirs, and ne'er the three did meet. But, as our sense of community grows, so do our horizons, and prejudices that were strong twenty years ago aren't as prevalent. To be fair, though, it's been at least six years since I was in the bar scene, so I may be talking through my hat.

Gays, in my experience, still tend to be highly judgmental in regards to closeted gays, gays that identify as 'straight-acting' (a personal pet peeve of mine), conservatives, and Christians. Although, two out of four of those groups give them good cause.

Some might call you a queen, Doug, but I think you're a real prince!

you are indeed awesome