love on the internet is it possible?

Sapphire Gypsy wrote:
Also... it's your fault I'm here... so really you have no one to blame but yourself.

kidspider2099 wrote:I have really got quit clicking on links.

BlueMaxx wrote:
This is still happening?

BlueMaxx wrote:
This is still happening?


Truth about cyber-romance. Unless you actualize yourself to that person and them to you, it'll only ever be fantasy-fullfillment for one or both of you. To grab ahold of a piece(s) of someone and make it seem their whole is ridiculous. The feelings had are only of the desire of your perception towards the person you're interacting with by what the other person is typing/saying, and which they may not actually be feeling. At least as much as you are. Sure, they could be feeling the same way, but they both couldn't truly know that unless they've both actually made tangible contact/presence with one another over a matter of time to show they need you in their life and vice versa. Creating loyalty and trust can't be done over the internet. You don't know where they are, who exactly they are...that's not a relationship. Intimacy means "to know." And that's not knowing. Sure, after meeting someone, and sharing all that you shared, making it true, would seem like, yes, you loved someone over the internet, when at the time, you really didn't know them.

Here's the list of stories. Some end wonderfully, with having met their partner in real life and even getting married, and some are pretty saddening, and/or stuck in the realm of going nowhere.
http://www.cyberlove101.com/

Like I said, there's nothing bad in all of this. Chatting with people about anything, talking on the phone, etc. Laughter, shared thoughts, that's real, but saying you've connected to someone (further than just the sharing of thoughts) and consider them your best friend or lover without actualizing in real life...it is a form of delusionment. If it is used as a form of working your way up to get to know someone, then that's perfectly reasonable. As is getting to know someone anywhere before actually solidifying deep emotion.

But when the computer goes off, the clock strikes midnight, the horses becomes mice, the carriage becomes a pumpkin, the magic, the ideal of that person, becomes "trapped" in the web. But the glass slipper is still there, though, and could very well fit and bring what was back again. But how would you know unless you put it on their foot, actualizing that person as true, and not just glamourizing that person in your head by the fragments of them that are great that you've made as their whole being.

As for my "arguing," sure it is an argument in the sense of debate, as much as stubborness fighting logic and reason. But I'm honestly not having a yell-fest. Just giving explanation and defending myself against words that I'm an emotionless, superficial person, yet paradoxically giving vehement statements? Which goes back to perception: I, attacking no one's character on these boards, have all of the sudden been hit with statements about my own character as if the person knew who I was. Delusions of perception. Mincing my words to say I said you can't find someone was not what I was saying. Ever.

Silent K wrote:

BlueMaxx wrote:
This is still happening?


Truth about cyber-romance. Unless you actualize yourself to that person and them to you, it'll only ever be fantasy-fullfillment for one or both of you. To grab ahold of a piece(s) of someone and make it seem their whole is ridiculous. The feelings had are only of the desire of your perception towards the person you're interacting with by what the other person is typing/saying, and which they may not actually be feeling. At least as much as you are. Sure, they could be feeling the same way, but they both couldn't truly know that unless they've both actually made tangible contact/presence with one another over a matter of time to show they need you in their life and vice versa. Creating loyalty and trust can't be done over the internet. You don't know where they are, who exactly they are...that's not a relationship. Intimacy means "to know." And that's not knowing. Sure, after meeting someone, and sharing all that you shared, making it true, would seem like, yes, you loved someone over the internet, when at the time, you really didn't know them.

Here's the list of stories. Some end wonderfully, with having met their partner in real life and even getting married, and some are pretty saddening, and/or stuck in the realm of going nowhere.
http://www.cyberlove101.com/

Like I said, there's nothing bad in all of this. Chatting with people about anything, talking on the phone, etc. Laughter, shared thoughts, that's real, but saying you've connected to someone (further than just the sharing of thoughts) and consider them your best friend or lover without actualizing in real life...it is a form of delusionment. If it is used as a form of working your way up to get to know someone, then that's perfectly reasonable. As is getting to know someone anywhere before actually solidifying deep emotion.

But when the computer goes off, the clock strikes midnight, the horses becomes mice, the carriage becomes a pumpkin, the magic, the ideal of that person, becomes "trapped" in the web. But the glass slipper is still there, though, and could very well fit and bring what was back again. But how would you know unless you put it on their foot, actualizing that person as true, and not just glamourizing that person in your head by the fragments of them that are great that you've made as their whole being.

As for my "arguing," sure it is an argument in the sense of debate, as much as stubborness fighting logic and reason. But I'm honestly not having a yell-fest. Just giving explanation and defending myself against words that I'm an emotionless, superficial person, yet paradoxically giving vehement statements? Which goes back to perception: I, attacking no one's character on these boards, have all of the sudden been hit with statements about my own character as if the person knew who I was. Delusions of perception. Mincing my words to say I said you can't find someone was not what I was saying. Ever.

BlueMaxx wrote:
This is still happening?


Truth about cyber-romance. Unless you actualize yourself to that person and them to you, it'll only ever be fantasy-fullfillment for one or both of you. To grab ahold of a piece(s) of someone and make it seem their whole is ridiculous. The feelings had are only of the desire of your perception towards the person you're interacting with by what the other person is typing/saying, and which they may not actually be feeling. At least as much as you are. Sure, they could be feeling the same way, but they both couldn't truly know that unless they've both actually made tangible contact/presence with one another over a matter of time to show they need you in their life and vice versa. Creating loyalty and trust can't be done over the internet. You don't know where they are, who exactly they are...that's not a relationship. Intimacy means "to know." And that's not knowing. Sure, after meeting someone, and sharing all that you shared, making it true, would seem like, yes, you loved someone over the internet, when at the time, you really didn't know them.

Here's the list of stories. Some end wonderfully, with having met their partner in real life and even getting married, and some are pretty saddening, and/or stuck in the realm of going nowhere.
http://www.cyberlove101.com/

Like I said, there's nothing bad in all of this. Chatting with people about anything, talking on the phone, etc. Laughter, shared thoughts, that's real, but saying you've connected to someone (further than just the sharing of thoughts) and consider them your best friend or lover without actualizing in real life...it is a form of delusionment. If it is used as a form of working your way up to get to know someone, then that's perfectly reasonable. As is getting to know someone anywhere before actually solidifying deep emotion.

But when the computer goes off, the clock strikes midnight, the horses becomes mice, the carriage becomes a pumpkin, the magic, the ideal of that person, becomes "trapped" in the web. But the glass slipper is still there, though, and could very well fit and bring what was back again. But how would you know unless you put it on their foot, actualizing that person as true, and not just glamourizing that person in your head by the fragments of them that are great that you've made as their whole being.

As for my "arguing," sure it is an argument in the sense of debate, as much as stubborness fighting logic and reason. But I'm honestly not having a yell-fest. Just giving explanation and defending myself against words that I'm an emotionless, superficial person, yet paradoxically giving vehement statements? Which goes back to perception: I, attacking no one's character on these boards, have all of the sudden been hit with statements about my own character as if the person knew who I was. Delusions of perception. Mincing my words to say I said you can't find someone was not what I was saying. Ever.

BlueMaxx wrote:
This is still happening?


Truth about cyber-romance. Unless you actualize yourself to that person and them to you, it'll only ever be fantasy-fullfillment for one or both of you. To grab ahold of a piece(s) of someone and make it seem their whole is ridiculous. The feelings had are only of the desire of your perception towards the person you're interacting with by what the other person is typing/saying, and which they may not actually be feeling. At least as much as you are. Sure, they could be feeling the same way, but they both couldn't truly know that unless they've both actually made tangible contact/presence with one another over a matter of time to show they need you in their life and vice versa. Creating loyalty and trust can't be done over the internet. You don't know where they are, who exactly they are...that's not a relationship. Intimacy means "to know." And that's not knowing. Sure, after meeting someone, and sharing all that you shared, making it true, would seem like, yes, you loved someone over the internet, when at the time, you really didn't know them.

Here's the list of stories. Some end wonderfully, with having met their partner in real life and even getting married, and some are pretty saddening, and/or stuck in the realm of going nowhere.
http://www.cyberlove101.com/

Like I said, there's nothing bad in all of this. Chatting with people about anything, talking on the phone, etc. Laughter, shared thoughts, that's real, but saying you've connected to someone (further than just the sharing of thoughts) and consider them your best friend or lover without actualizing in real life...it is a form of delusionment. If it is used as a form of working your way up to get to know someone, then that's perfectly reasonable. As is getting to know someone anywhere before actually solidifying deep emotion.

But when the computer goes off, the clock strikes midnight, the horses becomes mice, the carriage becomes a pumpkin, the magic, the ideal of that person, becomes "trapped" in the web. But the glass slipper is still there, though, and could very well fit and bring what was back again. But how would you know unless you put it on their foot, actualizing that person as true, and not just glamourizing that person in your head by the fragments of them that are great that you've made as their whole being.

As for my "arguing," sure it is an argument in the sense of debate, as much as stubborness fighting logic and reason. But I'm honestly not having a yell-fest. Just giving explanation and defending myself against words that I'm an emotionless, superficial person, yet paradoxically giving vehement statements? Which goes back to perception: I, attacking no one's character on these boards, have all of the sudden been hit with statements about my own character as if the person knew who I was. Delusions of perception. Mincing my words to say I said you can't find someone was not what I was saying. Ever.

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Silent K wrote:Yes. It is possible