^ But they've met each other. I've never said that people meeting each other over the internet couldn't become romance or intimate in any way. It's a great way to meet people, create relationships of all sorts.
But to be behind a computer screen for the entirety of your "relationship" isn't a partnership, it's partly delusionment. You can share all you'd like, but to actually know someone, you have to be in their life. To be their when they need you most.
Like when they're sick, in the hospital, waiting for them to get through what they need to get through to be with one another again. You're not actually there for that person when stuck behind a screen, meaning you're not an actual partner. The feelings of shared likes/dislikes, affection and admiration will only take two people so far. You have to have a life together, which is what a lot people do once they've met prospective partners online. Nothing wrong with that. It's better than blind dates by light-years.
Sorry if that offends, the delusionment statement (in the most reasonably, non demeaning sense), but it isn't real until it's part of your everyday, your life, when you create something more. The easy deception on a person's part, by them simply just leaving things out (Like WW's story), when online chatting with another person...that's what a partnership is, sharing your absolute life. There's no way to achieve that via just chatting. Heck, throw in a webcam, you're still only with that person for short periods of time, through a little window. What if a person you've been chatting with, you've created feelings for, turns out to be a liar, not the person at all that you were talking with for the longest time? Were those feelings real, or would you try to change your thoughts into believing that you didn't actually feel that deeply? Perception is a fickle thing, but logic dictates you can't be in someone's life unless you're in their frickin' life.
On the subject of taking the internet too seriously, some have really taken way too much out of this. To the point of being offended by reason and logic. Look at Wade. Buddha's patience. The guy makes a mission. The internet gets way too serious for me sometimes. Or, better yet, I'm apparently not serious enough for the internet, 'cause, man, it got out of hand last night with this thread...and the PMs, sheez. Immaturity and pettiness to the MAXX.
See, even through that, I can still come up with a lame joke. (Oh, and Doug is right on me combining Platonic Idealism with the conceptual love of that subject, which is where it originates, hence my misunderstood stance against the short definition given.)
Again, this isn't me shunning anyone. Sharing thoughts, laughs, and feelings is very real. To form a bond of intimate romanticism through limited means is impossible without validation of life experience.
Whelp, here it goes. [send]
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