Hey! HEY! Why don't you ask a girl instead?!?!

Splitty wrote:errrrr.....-------^ that one I cannot help you with.
It's so rare that I take on the sheer annoyance of dating, and usually it's not regular type people anyway, so I couldn't even begin to give advice on that.

Silent K wrote:

Splitty wrote:errrrr.....-------^ that one I cannot help you with.
It's so rare that I take on the sheer annoyance of dating, and usually it's not regular type people anyway, so I couldn't even begin to give advice on that.

Alright, hypothetically, say you've been talking to some dude on the internet for a while, and he's super cool. Then you meet him in a big group at some sort of comic convention, you get to hang out in person, and despite the fact that he sweats profusely, is adorably nervous, and has a few extra (hundred) lbs, you're totally digging on him, and he you. How would you want this entirely imaginary and theoretical dude to take it to the next step?

Silent K wrote:
Alright, hypothetically, say you've been talking to some dude on the internet for a while, and he's super cool. Then you meet him in a big group at some sort of comic convention, you get to hang out in person, and despite the fact that he sweats profusely, is adorably nervous, and has a few extra (hundred) lbs, you're totally digging on him, and he you. How would you want this entirely imaginary and theoretical dude to take it to the next step?

Splitty wrote:
I'd go sit on his lap.


Oh what would he do?! Well, I wouldn't want him to sit on my lap.

Silent K wrote:
Alright, hypothetically, say you've been talking to some dude on the internet for a while, and he's super cool. Then you meet him in a big group at some sort of comic convention, you get to hang out in person, and despite the fact that he sweats profusely, is adorably nervous, and has a few extra (hundred) lbs, you're totally digging on him, and he you. How would you want this entirely imaginary and theoretical dude to take it to the next step?

Splitty wrote:Sorry, don't want to step all over Ska's territory, but I'd like to add a couple more indicators, if you'll all let me (whom'I kidding, I'm doing it anyways).

Joshua wrote:For some of us more oblivious guys, how does one tell the difference between a girl who is into you and one who is just friendly?

Girls usually fall in three categories (I think), when around a guy she likes:
1. 'confident enough to interact like friendly equal and hope he takes the hint' (that's a tough one to identify)
2. 'flirty with everyone but I really like this guy' (she'll end up making the move if you don't)
3. 'too shy flustered clam-up around him' type (look for blushing and sideways peeking)

1. For regular confident girls, an indicator that she's just being friendly is the joking will just be regular type jokey, and the conversations straight forward. But if she's into you, you'll maybe occasionally hear romantic or sexual tinged flirty joking, touching poking or swatting, and keep your ears tuned for her dropping facts that she's got no boyfriend, or wants to go someplace but doesn't have anyone to go with. If she normally doesn't flirt with other guys, then there you go (and even with the confident girls, some physical indicators of #3 below will apply too).

I would say the flavored jokes you wouldn't share with another guy, but on this board.........

2. That is unless she's the kinda girl who sexually flirts with everyone, but then she'd probably be forward enough to let you know straight on if you don't take the bait soon enough.

3. And for the more shy type (where most girls fall), if she's too shy to talk or joke much with you, you'll see her with her head turned away, lowered down, and looking at you occasionally sideways-eyed (often when you're facing away from her, so do some quick spins to catch her!). She might also suddenly stand very stiff and still when you're in the room. Also she may do the head-down-eyes-up move when you talk to her, with a 'shuck gee' type response, and maybe blush. If she's just being friendly, she'll have a tendency to look at you straight on always. Crushies often equal 'can't sustain eye contact for long'.

So if you catch her doing the 'head lowered away eyes peeking at you' move, you're golden.
So get your ninja reflexes on!

Mnemosis wrote:
Now if only I could teach her to like cous cous...

Silent K wrote:
Alright, hypothetically, say you've been talking to some dude on the internet for a while, and he's super cool. Then you meet him in a big group at some sort of comic convention, you get to hang out in person, and despite the fact that he sweats profusely, is adorably nervous, and has a few extra (hundred) lbs, you're totally digging on him, and he you. How would you want this entirely imaginary and theoretical dude to take it to the next step?

Ska wrote:

Silent K wrote:
Alright, hypothetically, say you've been talking to some dude on the internet for a while, and he's super cool. Then you meet him in a big group at some sort of comic convention, you get to hang out in person, and despite the fact that he sweats profusely, is adorably nervous, and has a few extra (hundred) lbs, you're totally digging on him, and he you. How would you want this entirely imaginary and theoretical dude to take it to the next step?

Well, hypothetically, would the girl be within the same state as said dude or would it be a long distance thing? The next step would be to decide to what degree they liked each other, and how much they were willing to work to make it work if it was long distance. It's not for everybody, but for those who deal with it they can find they're happier than being with somebody that would be living in their area code. Now, if the girl lived within driving distance of said guy and does like said guy, why the hell sweat over it? Dating is supposed to be fun, you're supposed to enjoy just spending time together. Nobody said it has to start out serious, it usually develops into that. I think she would appreciate a more lighthearted approach. If the guy is all gung-ho about calling it a "relationship" from the get go, it's possible it could scare her off/be smothering/etc, which could make it blow up in the guy's face.

Ska wrote:Go get your own thread, hooch. No hijacking, this one's mine. :x *cat claws at you*

Ska wrote:
Well, hypothetically, would the girl be within the same state as said dude or would it be a long distance thing? The next step would be to decide to what degree they liked each other, and how much they were willing to work to make it work if it was long distance. It's not for everybody, but for those who deal with it they can find they're happier than being with somebody that would be living in their area code. Now, if the girl lived within driving distance of said guy and does like said guy, why the hell sweat over it? Dating is supposed to be fun, you're supposed to enjoy just spending time together. Nobody said it has to start out serious, it usually develops into that. I think she would appreciate a more lighthearted approach. If the guy is all gung-ho about calling it a "relationship" from the get go, it's possible it could scare her off/be smothering/etc, which could make it blow up in the guy's face.

Splitty wrote:
Yeah, don't appreciate being called 'hooch' in any way, shape, or form, thanks.

Silent K wrote:
I get you, but I'm talking more about how it gets to the dating/relationship stage. How does it go from flirting to digging eachother, to in most cases, the dude making some sort of move forward....and WHAT is that move?

Silent K wrote:

Ska wrote:
Well, hypothetically, would the girl be within the same state as said dude or would it be a long distance thing? The next step would be to decide to what degree they liked each other, and how much they were willing to work to make it work if it was long distance. It's not for everybody, but for those who deal with it they can find they're happier than being with somebody that would be living in their area code. Now, if the girl lived within driving distance of said guy and does like said guy, why the hell sweat over it? Dating is supposed to be fun, you're supposed to enjoy just spending time together. Nobody said it has to start out serious, it usually develops into that. I think she would appreciate a more lighthearted approach. If the guy is all gung-ho about calling it a "relationship" from the get go, it's possible it could scare her off/be smothering/etc, which could make it blow up in the guy's face.

I get you, but I'm talking more about how it gets to the dating/relationship stage. How does it go from flirting to digging eachother, to in most cases, the dude making some sort of move forward....and WHAT is that move?

Mnemosis wrote:
Er... ya. Ya just, talk, and do stuff. Treat it like a friendship. Just keep your eyes open for signs that she wants it to be more.

BlueMaxx wrote:^ Confidence ftw.

Silent K wrote:
Too true. Just ask Leilene.

Splitty wrote:Sorry, don't want to step all over Ska's territory, but I'd like to add a couple more indicators, if you'll all let me (whom'I kidding, I'm doing it anyways).

Joshua wrote:For some of us more oblivious guys, how does one tell the difference between a girl who is into you and one who is just friendly?

Girls usually fall in three categories (I think), when around a guy she likes:
1. 'confident enough to interact like friendly equal and hope he takes the hint' (that's a tough one to identify)
2. 'flirty with everyone but I really like this guy' (she'll end up making the move if you don't)
3. 'too shy flustered clam-up around him' type (look for blushing and sideways peeking)

1. For regular confident girls, an indicator that she's just being friendly is the joking will just be regular type jokey, and the conversations straight forward. But if she's into you, you'll maybe occasionally hear romantic or sexual tinged flirty joking, touching poking or swatting, and keep your ears tuned for her dropping facts that she's got no boyfriend, or wants to go someplace but doesn't have anyone to go with. If she normally doesn't flirt with other guys, then there you go (and even with the confident girls, some physical indicators of #3 below will apply too).

I would say the flavored jokes you wouldn't share with another guy, but on this board.........

2. That is unless she's the kinda girl who sexually flirts with everyone, but then she'd probably be forward enough to let you know straight on if you don't take the bait soon enough.

3. And for the more shy type (where most girls fall), if she's too shy to talk or joke much with you, you'll see her with her head turned away, lowered down, and looking at you occasionally sideways-eyed (often when you're facing away from her, so do some quick spins to catch her!). She might also suddenly stand very stiff and still when you're in the room. Also she may do the head-down-eyes-up move when you talk to her, with a 'shuck gee' type response, and maybe blush. If she's just being friendly, she'll have a tendency to look at you straight on always. Crushies often equal 'can't sustain eye contact for long'.

So if you catch her doing the 'head lowered away eyes peeking at you' move, you're golden.
So get your ninja reflexes on!

Sci-Fi wrote: My question refers to what I have in bold. Would uhh any of that apply still if she is married and yet still touches you in some form or says sexual related things?

Sci-Fi wrote:
My question refers to what I have in bold. Would uhh any of that apply still if she is married and yet still touches you in some form or says sexual related things?

Splitty wrote:

Sci-Fi wrote: My question refers to what I have in bold. Would uhh any of that apply still if she is married and yet still touches you in some form or says sexual related things?

Hooches cannot reply!

But who whe fuck cares if she's into you if she's married? She's Married!
BAD!!

Now everybody stop quoting my advice post.

Silent K wrote:

Mnemosis wrote:
Er... ya. Ya just, talk, and do stuff. Treat it like a friendship. Just keep your eyes open for signs that she wants it to be more.

Yeah...but you're not getting me. What is that next step?

Plus, I have no problem treating relationships with women like a friendship. Been doing that for the better part of 28 years.

I guess when the situation occurs, it'll just come to me. I'll probably say something funny, clumsy, or both, while mopping my brow, and I'm in there like swimwear.

Ska wrote:

Tripper McGee wrote:Would you be my girlfriend?

Yes, and Tenime can take the picture this time.

Silent K wrote:What brand cologne/after-shave do ladies enjoy?