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More than one girl would be too much work.

Joshua wrote:The girls won't take it up the butt and the guys don't want threesomes. What a bunch of squares and prudes we all are.

Maybe you should ask it in Doug's and Ska's threads.

Joshua wrote:I have a question for straight guys: what's the appeal to threesomes and orgies? I've never found that enticing.

I'm a fan of being the center of attention, and that's what I'd hope to get out of a group thing. I'd totally be down with 2 girls/1 guy, or 2+ girls/1 guy, but I'm not really comfortable with another man in the room.

Silent K wrote:

Joshua wrote:I have a question for straight guys: what's the appeal to threesomes and orgies? I've never found that enticing.

I'm a fan of being the center of attention, and that's what I'd hope to get out of a group thing. I'd totally be down with 2 girls/1 guy, or 2+ girls/1 guy, but I'm not really comfortable with another man in the room.

Even with it being only you in a room full of girls, that doesn't mean you'll be the center of attention. That's one of the big reasons why it doesn't appeal to me. I want to focus all of my attention on one person and I want all of their attention on me. Not to mention the emotional and mental shit I'd have to deal with afterwards.

Can't I have my fun? I'd like to IMAGINE being the center of attention.

Silent K wrote:Can't I have my fun? I'd like to IMAGINE being the center of attention.

By all means, I wasn't trying to kick your puppy.

Joshua wrote:
Even with it being only you in a room full of girls, that doesn't mean you'll be the center of attention. That's one of the big reasons why it doesn't appeal to me. I want to focus all of my attention on one person and I want all of their attention on me. Not to mention the emotional and mental shit I'd have to deal with afterwards.

What emotional shit?

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Silent K wrote:
I want to focus all of my attention on one person and I want all of their attention on me.

This.

Tripper McGee wrote:
What emotional shit?

Call me old fashioned, but I'm not one who looks at sex as purely a 'fun n' games' activity. It may sound cheesy, but for me it's about a connection with someone whom you care deeply about and who cares deeply about you. To bring a third person into that would trivialize the entire thing. I don't know what I would feel like afterwards, having never been in a threesome, but I imagine I would walk away with some serious emotional baggage.

Joshua wrote:

Tripper McGee wrote:
What emotional shit?

Call me old fashioned, but I'm not one who looks at sex as purely a 'fun n' games' activity. It may sound cheesy, but for me it's about a connection with someone whom you care deeply about and who cares deeply about you. To bring a third person into that would trivialize the entire thing. I don't know what I would feel like afterwards, having never been in a threesome, but I imagine I would walk away with some serious emotional baggage.

I understand completely. I always think of threesomes/orgies as something single people do. It wouldn't even occur to me to be involved in one if I were in a relationship.

I think most guy's see the threesome thing as, again, a conquest. The "I'm the man" feeling. I've never been involved in one but I'm sure it's a big ego boost to the guy involved. It's something that a majority of people aren't involved in so the taboo factor is also involved in this.

I've seen relationships ruined because a third person was added for one night of "fun". I don't know why someone would add another person into a serious relationship. There are not many good ways that will turn out.

Rath99 wrote:
I've seen relationships ruined because a third person was added for one night of "fun". I don't know why someone would add another person into a serious relationship. There are not many good ways that will turn out.

Agreed.

I'm too shy to be seen naked by more than one person

Tripper McGee wrote:
I understand completely. I always think of threesomes/orgies as something single people do. It wouldn't even occur to me to be involved in one if I were in a relationship.

That's how I've always taken it. 3 good friends. Whether it be ffm or mmf. Not a relationship. I know swingers do their thing, but how much respect can you have in a romantic relationship if every Tom, Dick, and Harry...you get where I'm going with this.

Tripper McGee wrote:I always think of threesomes/orgies as something single people do. It wouldn't even occur to me to be involved in one if I were in a relationship.

Rath99 wrote:I've seen relationships ruined because a third person was added for one night of "fun". I don't know why someone would add another person into a serious relationship. There are not many good ways that will turn out.

Cheating's cheating. I don't care if the other person agreed to it, and is in the room, watching or even participating.

^ That's not cheating. :huh

Foxy wrote:

Joshua wrote: I imagine for a lot of guys it's a dominance issue, like cumming on a girl's face. I also think a lot of it is just perpetuated because of porn.

That's another thing. I am not a fan of cumming on a chick's face in porn, and it's not 'oh that's so disrespectful' feminist bull, I just don't think it's hot. Would that be such a big thing if not seen over and over and over again in porn?

Silent K wrote:
Oh God. I just imagine Foxy waiting with baited breath for that PM.

Not quite, but I did just wake up to it and all these replies.
Well, you all said pretty much what I was expecting. Guess there's no hush-hush secret to it.


And I have to say, kudos to all of you for being mature on this. You boys impressed me.

You think you're impressed now? Wait'll you see my

Spoiler:

It's HUGE!

On the topic of cumming on faces... yeah, I don't know. See my e-mail in regards to that, as well.

Joshua wrote:I have a question for straight guys: what's the appeal to threesomes and orgies? I've never found that enticing.

Add me to the list of nay-sayers. If ANYTHING... I'd want to double up with another guy on a girl, but I don't know if I could handle being naked with another guy having sex with the same girl. Does that make sense? If I was single and into casual sex (neither of which applies), I could appreciate the allure of being with a girl who wanted it so bad, she needed more than one at a time. I couldn't make a relationship out of it, I'd be too insecure. But for a one night stand kind of thing, I think it'd be hot. I'd just haveta... I don't know... have blinders on that prevented me from seeing any part of the dude aside from knowing he was there...

Astro13Zombie wrote:I'm too shy to be seen naked by more than one person

TOTAL!?

TENIME_art wrote:

Tripper McGee wrote:I always think of threesomes/orgies as something single people do. It wouldn't even occur to me to be involved in one if I were in a relationship.

Rath99 wrote:I've seen relationships ruined because a third person was added for one night of "fun". I don't know why someone would add another person into a serious relationship. There are not many good ways that will turn out.

Cheating's cheating. I don't care if the other person agreed to it, and is in the room, watching or even participating.

BlueMaxx wrote:^ That's not cheating. :huh

I'm with BlueMaxx on this one. An orgy, when everyone in all involved relationships is aware and approves, is not cheating. It's not the simple act of sex that = cheating, it's betrayal. That's how you can cheat without ever having had sex.

Mnemosis wrote:

Astro13Zombie wrote:I'm too shy to be seen naked by more than one person

TOTAL!?

More than one person at a time.

After reading all of this I can't help but chime in.

I'm pretty open minded when it comes to sex. I'm not shy about my body so an orgy or threesome wouldn't bother me as far as being naked around other people. Would I want some other dudes railing my wife...not so much. It'd be a completely different story if I were single. I'd be down for whatever (heterosexually that is...no offense to anyone...I just don't swing that way)given no one was getting hurt (unless you're into that kinda thing cuz paddle and nipple clamps ain't half bad )

Now the checklist:

Blown a load on a girls face, CHECK.

Have done a girl in the butt, CHECK.

Have had sex with other people in the room/watching, CHECK.

As far as emotional or mental baggage caused by a threesome or orgy I guess it depends on the person. I'd probably factor in that you'd have to have a pretty high level of maturity to deal with said baggage without it screwing you're shit up. I've never had a full on threesome or orgy so I can't speak on the matter personally.

And finally if a couple would want to "swing" or what not, as long as it was discussed and both parties agreed, I wouldn't count it as cheating.

BlueMaxx wrote:^ That's not cheating. :huh

That's your opinion.

In my opinion, when you're in a relationship, and you touch or act emotionally towards someone who is not your significant other, in the way that you would touch or act emotionally towards your significant other, that is cheating.

I know I'm alone on the planet feeling this way.

But just because everyone disagrees with me (like that's new ), does not mean I still don't feel that way, or that anything anyone says will make me feel any differently.

^ Well said, and fair enough.

But you're just explaining monogamy. That's a given. But for you to have sexual interaction with someone else while in a relationship that has a mutual understanding for swinging, so to speak, it isn't cheating because it isn't behind someone's back.

I'm not disagreeing with you for the sake of disagreeing with you. That's silly.

BlueMaxx wrote:
That's how I've always taken it. 3 good friends. Whether it be ffm or mmf. Not a relationship. I know swingers do their thing, but how much respect can you have in a romantic relationship if every Tom, Dick, and Harry...you get where I'm going with this.

Exactly.

Joshua wrote:The girls won't take it up the butt and the guys don't want threesomes. What a bunch of squares and prudes we all are.

I <3 you Josh, so much.

Astro13Zombie wrote:I'm too shy to be seen naked by more than one person

Thats what streaming video was made for.

Mnemosis wrote:

Joshua wrote:I have a question for straight guys: what's the appeal to threesomes and orgies? I've never found that enticing.

Add me to the list of nay-sayers. If ANYTHING... I'd want to double up with another guy on a girl, but I don't know if I could handle being naked with another guy having sex with the same girl. Does that make sense? If I was single and into casual sex (neither of which applies), I could appreciate the allure of being with a girl who wanted it so bad, she needed more than one at a time. I couldn't make a relationship out of it, I'd be too insecure. But for a one night stand kind of thing, I think it'd be hot. I'd just haveta... I don't know... have blinders on that prevented me from seeing any part of the dude aside from knowing he was there...

Dude, I'm afraid of his junk getting anywhere near mine. I mean, your BALLS could touch. *shudders* Or imagine him cumming and it GETS on your. I feel dirty enough getting myself messy with Esbat's Own salad dressing. But then again I get paranoid when I eat food and I think a crumb or smudge of mustard or grease is still on my chin/face.

TENIME_art wrote:

BlueMaxx wrote:^ That's not cheating. :huh

That's your opinion.

In my opinion, when you're in a relationship, and you touch or act emotionally towards someone who is not your significant other, in the way that you would touch or act emotionally towards your significant other, that is cheating.

I know I'm alone on the planet feeling this way.

But just because everyone disagrees with me (like that's new ), does not mean I still don't feel that way, or that anything anyone says will make me feel any differently.

No you're not, I've agreed with you in the past, quite a bit, on the subject of sex and relationships. I may joke... ALOT, but I'm pretty adamant that even with permission, its a violation of the relationship. Might as well be single, right?

Esbat wrote:No you're not, I've agreed with you in the past, quite a bit, on the subject of sex and relationships. I may joke... ALOT, but I'm pretty adamant that even with permission, its a violation of the relationship. Might as well be single, right?

*hugs 'Batty*